EVENT FULL | Infidelity and the Couple Relationship

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Date(s) - 17/11/2017
9:30 am - 4:30 pm

Cass Business School


CPD Hours six

Infidelity is an extremely distressing and common theme in couple therapy, which has a high prevalence despite societal condemnation. For both partners, an intense relationship outside the primary one can be interpersonally traumatising. There are usually multiple determinants, but the need to know why it happened is very strong, leading to destructive exchanges and emotional turmoil. This training day will explore the complex themes that arise when infidelity in its various forms impacts on the couple relationship.

Aims and Objectives:

  • To define different types of infidelity and describe treatment models
  • To discuss boundary and ethical issues
  • To explore how therapists manage the disclosure of infidelity secrets
  • To demonstrate the impact on sexual intimacy
  • To consider the relationship, developmental and neurobiological factors underpinning infidelity.


09:30 – Registration and coffee

10:00 – Welcome and introductions

10:10 – Definitions and meanings

Impact of infidelity on sexual contact: participant discussion

Therapy Models: trauma, forgiveness, counter-transference

11:30 – Coffee

11:45 – Infidelity specific model: case illustrations

Managing emotions, boundary setting, coping with reminders

Online infidelity

13:00 – Lunch

14:00 – Ethics of managing disclosure of infidelity

Infidelity and brain structures

Small group case discussions: participants’ cases

15:45 – Tea

16:00 – Discussion and review of the day

16:30 – Close


Presented by Janice Hiller, BSc, MPhil, AFBPsS, C.Psychol, a Consultant Clinical Psychologist who trained at the Institute of Psychiatry and initially worked in adult mental health, before setting up and heading an NHS Relationship and Psychosexual Service at Goodmayes Hospital in North East London. She left the NHS in 2012 to take up the post of Senior Academic Tutor in Psychosexual studies at Tavistock Relationships. Since specialising in couples therapy and sexology Janice has presented at conferences in the UK and abroad, run many seminars and training courses, and was honorary lecturer and tutor for the Doctoral degree course at UCL. Her journal and book publications cover a range of topics including psychosexual development, coital pain, arousal and desire difficulties, neurobiology, gender differences in sexual motivation and ethical issues. Janice was joint editor and contributor to Hiller, Wood and Bolton (2006)”Sex Mind and Emotion”, and co-wrote a chapter “Psychodynamic aspects of Psychosexual Therapy” (2013) for the European –wide syllabus of clinical sexology published by the European Society of Sexual Medicine. She has a private practice in North London, and is especially interested in biopsychosocial factors in sexual and gender development, and the role of neuroscience in understanding sexual behaviour.


Terms and Conditions

The full fee for each training day is £115 for COSRT members and £125 for non-members. Cheques should be made payable to COSRT in GB pounds sterling. Payment must be received by COSRT before the training day. Confirmation and details of your booking will be emailed to you.

Cancellations must be made in writing. There is an administrative charge of £20 per person for cancellations received up to six weeks prior to the training day. Thereafter no refund is possible. To substitute a delegate please call the COSRT office (020 8543 2707) at least seven days prior to the event.

COSRT reserves the right to change the venue or speakers due to unforeseen circumstances. In the unlikely event of a training day being cancelled, a full refund will be made, but COSRT disclaims any further liability.

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